Gossiping,
Gold-digging, nagging, holding on too tight-these are among the top things
women do that turn men off, says author Jennifer Bawden.
"Women looking
for a man often don't realize the way a man thinks-what brings him close
and what makes him run," said Bawden, author of "Get a Life, Then Get a
Man." "They send out the wrong signals and then wonder what caused
their date to flee."
Here are the
top male turnoffs, according to Bawden, who's also a model and dress designer
to the stars:
GOSSIPING:
Criticizing other women's looks or intelligence is a type of female combat,
a way to verbally eliminate the competition. But men don't feel comfortable
with a woman who sits around bad-mouthing others. It makes her look
small and petty.
GOLD-DIGGING:
No man wants to think his wallet is the main attraction. And
many men feel that when a woman's first question is "What do you do?" it's
the same as asking them how much money they make.
NAGGING: Men
get offended when somebody is constantly pointing out where they've stumbled
or how they could have done things better. No one likes to be criticized.
HANGING ON TOO
TIGHT: Some women cling to a man for dear life. They can't pick
a movie or restaurant without his advice. They depend on a man for
everything and call several times a day. This drives men crazy.
JEALOUSY:
It's self-defeating. The best way to stay close with a man is to
give him his freedom. If he's trustworthy, give him a break.
If you know for certain he's cheating, move on.
NOT SAYING THANK
YOU:
Men hate it when they go to the trouble of arranging a date, picking a
woman up and taking her out, then at the end of the evening not even receiving
a thank you. Make it a point to call later and say thanks again.
INSECURITY:
Men are comfortable with women who are comfortable with themselves.
When a man offers a complement, he hopes you'll accept it and thank him
rather than brushing it off.
DWELLING ON PAST
RELATIONSHIPS: A man assumes that if a woman talks endlessly about
her past relationships, she's hinting she's not interested in him or is
not yet over her latest ex. Men can also feel threatened when asked
to divulge details of their own relationships.
CHRONIC WHINING:
For chronic complainers, nothing is ever right. Men feel that with
a whiner, they're expected to solve all of her problems.
BABBLING:
Some women chatter on and on about superficial things like what their hairdresser
said or what someone was wearing. Find something newsworthy or funny
to talk about - anything is better than girl talk.
OVERPACKING:
Traveling with a busload of suitcases is the sign of a prima donna who
expects her companions to carry bags for her. If it can't fir into
a pull-along carryon and one smaller tote bag, leave it at home.
KEEPING HIM WAITING:
In an interview, one guy said: "A man would never keep people waiting for
him while he put gel in his hair or groomed his beard. Yet you often
hear women saying, 'But I'm putting on my makeup,' as if that's a good
reason to keep anybody waiting for 45 minutes."
…and the secret
test guys keep to themselves:
A secret test
passed down from father to son, brother to brother: Inlock her door first
and then see if she leans over to unlock yours. If she doesn't it's
a sure sign she's selfish. |
